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12/25/20

To the ten-years-ago self

 [End of October 2010] Your six week stay in London just came to an end. You are on your way back to Singapore and you are not looking forward to it. However you feel quite fortunate to start your career with a cushy job in a cushy place. 

- Little do you know that you will be overcome by lassitude in just a couple of years. A growing dissatisfaction with work will force you to consider alternate career paths. The idea of an MBA or continuing in banking sector sounds safe but rather unappealing. You will apply for a grad program but fail. A growing sense of uncertainty will overwhelm you, and eventually haunt you for most of your 20s. You will waste the next 5-6 years switching career paths and starting from scratch every time.

+ You have started running longer, faster and more often. For the next five years you will run a lot and write about it a lot. After about four years you will hit your (running) peak and achieve some of your running goals. After turning thirty you will start focusing on bodyweight workout and at around thirty two hit the peak of your fitness.

 + The monotony of living in Singapore will force you to travel to nearby countries in South East Asia. It will rekindle your love of mountains and hiking. Most of your happy memories for the time being are going to be associated with it. This is going to play a significant factor in deciding where you want to base yourself next.

- You have gained reputation as a loner. You enjoy spending time alone but at times suffer from bouts of loneliness. Over the next ten years these occasional bouts are going to devolve into an overbearing feeling of loneliness which will torment you constantly. Currently a long run or an intense workout makes you feel better but none of it is going to work out in future. Nothing else will work either - dating, relationships, increased social participation. You will try many a thing to get rid of it but will eventually submit to it and start to learn how to live with it. 

+ Some people you will meet just for a few hours or days will leave strong impressions on you. Especially meeting S and K in Seoul. When you meet them in Seoul, you will have absolutely no idea that you will meet K again on the other side of the world after a couple of years. 

+ Most of your pleasant memories are currently associated with places or things, not people. This is going to change. You will meet some beautiful souls along the way who will bring much needed fondness in your life and memories.

Personal life

- There are two kinds of feelings you are largely unaware of. But they will become an inextricable part of your life. Feelings of regret and loss. 

- You have a tenuous relationship with your parents but nothing of major concern. You harbor an optimism that one day the lingering issues will disappear and you will be able create a strong bond with them. However over the next ten years this relationship is going to degrade in the way you feared but did not expect. It is going to take a severe toll on your mental health. But you will also strengthen certain aspects of your bonds with family in ways you never expected. In the end things will more or less fall in place.

Overall

+ You will quit this job after about three years under and set out traveling. Little can you image you will end up in a place so vastly different and suited to almost everything you would want. You will invest significant time and money in an endeavor of learning a new language. At this point your life will veer to a completely different direction and you will more or less find yourself settled in terms of location and career path.

Buckle up!

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